sebenarnya saya ada nak buat satu entry mengenai kematian Paul Walker kelmarin, tapi stuck tgah jalan tak tahu nak tulis apa. n then the next day tiba tiba kelua pulak berita Tom Daley dating dengan lelaki.
There seems to be a variety of reactions toward his coming out story. cerita tentang dia coming out boleh tgok kat video youtube link berikut
saya menganggap saya ada gaydar yang boleh dibanggai jugaklah. sebelum ni tgok Tom Daley dalam pelbagai acara sukan yang dia sertai, saya tak rasa pulak y dia ni gay. he just comes across as a happy young guy taking life as it is. and he is such a talented young man. to come bronze for olympic 2012 at that age is very impressive.
the story of him coming out struck me. one question comes to mind. is it still relevant to label people as straight or gay? sexuality is not as black and white as what people normally perceive. for that matter, i believe nothing in this world is black white. dalam video tu dia cakap dia pernah ada girlfriend sebelum ni n then he dated a guy and that makes him feels happy. i wonder what was his feeling during his first date with the guy? sebagai seorang y x pernah dating lelaki sebelum, apa perasaanya bila tiba tiba kena kelua dating dgan lelaki? is if offensive if a gay guy asking a straight guy for a date?
i have a story of my own actually when it comes to asking people out. well, more to confessing my feeling. saya pernah bgtau seorg lelaki y saya suka pada dia. turned out, he is straight and have a girlfriend. masa tu memg rasa macam dunia nak runtuh sebab segan y teramat. but i glad i did it. come to think of it now, is it more embarassing to me or to him? is a love proposal from a another man, makes you less masculine?
saya punya definisi of masculine x melibatkan seksualiti sebagai faktor. in fact, pada pendapat saya, perempuan pun boleh ada sifat sifat maskulin. n i dont think it should be something to be embarrassed about because it defines you as individual.
coming back to the story of sexuality and coming out. i wonder how other's experiences in coming out are like? ada orang cakap, "it just clicked" or "feel right". ada org cakap, he/she has always has that feeling. Tom Daley cakap "he always think there is a possibility for him dating a guy". saya pulak dah memang lama ada kecenderungan terhadap lelaki, tetapi selama ni saya cuma pendam je.
coming back to my label, or rather un-label of sexuality. kalau orang straight boleh dating orang gay, is it normal or possible to do it the other way around?
apa pun, saya gembira y Tom Daley open dengan apa y dia lakukan and happy with it. wish him a long lasting relationship